If you're contemplating asking someone to marry you or you're already engaged, there are some important questions before marriage that you should consider, both by yourself and with your significant other. You need to be sure that you're ready for marriage itself and that you're sure about the person you're marrying, and the two of you need to make sure that you're both going into this with your eyes open and your communication clear. So what are some important questions before marriage that you should consider asking yourself and discussing with your fiancÈe?
First, ask yourself if you're really ready to be married. Many of the things that you take for granted when you're single will be gone once you're married. This means checking in with your spouse if you're going to be late and when you want to make plans with other people. Many people fail to address these types of questions before marriage because they're afraid of the answer. What if you really aren't as ready to give up your freedom as you would like to think? What if you really enjoy being alone and aren't sure if you want to spend your life with someone else? These are tough questions before marriage but they need to be considered and addressed before you tell someone else that you're going to enter into this type of relationship with them. Remember, this isn't just about your feelings and what's best for you. If you're not really the marrying type and you get married anyway, you're going to hurt not just yourself but your eventual spouse as well.
Considering some questions before marriage with your fiancÈe might mean discussing the big issues and the everyday issues as well. Do you both want children? Are you both planning on working? How will you divide the household chores? Who will handle the budget and money and how will this be divided up between you? What about your in-laws and friends; will you need to set any limits or boundaries on their visits and such? Many of these types of questions before marriage are not exactly pleasant but are very necessary.
And remember that if you disagree on any of the answers to these questions before marriage, this doesn't necessarily mean that your relationship is in jeopardy or that you automatically need to put off the marriage itself. All through your life you're going to find that you and your spouse disagree on things, sometimes even big things, and being able to communicate and work things out through compromise and cooperation is going to be vital. This is true no matter whom you wind up marrying. So don't be afraid of these questions before marriage as they may also show some work you both need to do on your communication styles and abilities to compromise. Rather than push you two apart as you might be afraid of, these questions before marriage might actually even draw you two closer together and strengthen your relationship.